How to Talk to Your Partner(s) About STI Testing

How to Talk to Your Partner(s) About STI Testing

Talking about sexual health can feel intimidating, but it doesn’t have to be. One of the most responsible and respectful things you can do for your relationship—and your health—is to discuss STI testing with your partner(s). At Affinity Urgent Care, serving Alvin, La Marque, and Galveston, Texas, we believe that effective communication and access to reliable information are essential for making informed, empowered choices. Whether it’s your first time having this conversation or it’s been a while, leading with kindness, clarity, and honesty will help you navigate it successfully.

Start With the Right Intention

Bringing up STI testing is about mutual respect and protecting each other’s health. Ensure you frame the conversation this way to take the pressure off. This might sound like, “Before we become intimate, I’d feel more comfortable if we both got tested,” or “I care about you, and I think it’s important that we take care of our sexual health.” This approach shows your partner that you care and want to connect—not place blame. 

Choose the Right Time and Setting

Timing and privacy are crucial. Ensure you are both relaxed and not distracted or in the midst of an argument. It’s ideal to have the conversation in person in a private, quiet space, but a thoughtful phone or video call may be necessary in certain situations. This allows you both to listen, ask questions, and respond without feeling rushed or judged.

Be Honest and Non-Judgmental

You can encourage your partner to be honest by being open about your own sexual health. Whether you’ve been tested recently or not, you can build trust by sharing your experience. Try starting the conversation with something like, “I haven’t been tested in a while, and I’d like to schedule one soon. I think it would be great if we both made sure we’re up to date. Want to go together?” Remember, STIs are common, and getting tested is simply part of responsible self-care.

Normalize the Conversation

Just like you’d check in about birth control or allergies, asking about STI testing is a normal and necessary part of a relationship. Treat STI testing like any other aspect of health and wellness. If you're in a non-monogamous relationship or exploring new connections, these conversations may occur more frequently—and that’s a good thing. Open, ongoing communication about sexual health helps everyone feel safe and supported.

Offer Solutions and Support

If your partner is nervous or unsure, offer reassurance. Let them know that you trust them, and this is about mutual care. You can also make it easier by suggesting convenient options, like finding a nearby clinic that offers confidential, same-day testing. You might suggest going together—testing doesn’t have to be awkward. Take the opportunity as a shared step toward building a healthier connection.

Take Control of Your Sexual Health

At Affinity Urgent Care, serving Alvin, La Marque, and Galveston, Texas, we’re here to support you with confidential, judgment-free STI testing in a safe and compassionate environment. Whether you’re coming in alone or with a partner, we can answer your questions and walk you through the process. You can also contact us to schedule an appointment.